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Anger
Anger is an emotional state that may range from minor irritation to intense rage. The physical effects of anger include increased heart rate, blood pressure, and levels of adrenaline and noradrenaline. Some view anger as part of the fight or flight brain response to the perceived threat of pain. Anger can lead to many things physically and mentally. Modern psychologists view anger as a primary, natural, and mature emotion experienced by all humans at times, and as something that has functional value for survival. Anger can mobilize psychological resources for corrective action. Uncontrolled anger can however negatively affect personal or social well-being.Well in my case sometimes I want to kick, break, crush, scratch, break everyone into tears, interrupt and separate from the clinch, smash ,bang up, hit, torn, blah, blah and blah. I hate, hate and hate everything for a while. I wish to do all those acts in reality but that was kind a my inner feelings like Arghh.. I starts looking to cool down myself change my aggression and negativism. The techniques which help me are to change the situation, stay away for a lil time or time out, go for exercise or a walk, listening music, sometimes shed tears and share with my sweet pillows only etc . As I mentioned in my early article do not lose your control. Control your anger before it controls you.
In Psychology anger is viewed as a form of sexual reaction and healthy response that has evolved to enable us to deal with threats.Three types of anger are recognized by psychologists: The first form of anger, named "hasty and sudden anger" by Joseph Butler, an 18th century English bishop, is connected to the impulse for self-preservation. It is shared between humans and animals and occurs when tormented or trapped. The second type of anger is named "settled and deliberate" anger and is a reaction to perceived deliberate harm or unfair treatment by others. These two forms of anger are episodic. The third type of anger is however inherited and is related more to character traits than to instincts or cognition, irritability, sullenness and churlishness postures are examples of the last form of anger. Anger is a strong feeling of displeasure but completely normal, usually healthy, human emotion. But when it gets out of control and turns destructive, it can lead to problems. Anger can be suppressed, and then converted or redirected. This happens when you hold in your anger, stop thinking about it, and focus on something positive.
Techniques to control your anger...
> Go for a walk or do some physical exercise
> If you have to, take yourself out of a situation /meeting .
> Self talk , I always do that for me it is really working.
> Say STOP! STOP! To your negative thinking.
> Try to explore yourself and identify your angry? Find the solution.
> Drink water
>Practicing relaxation techniques such as deep breathing exercises, meditation or yoga.
>Reducing your stress levels by praying, having a massage, listening to music or reading a book.
>Doing something creative such as painting , sketching, writing poetry or scrap booking.
>Once you cool down speaking to a close family member or friend about how angry you feel.
> Forgive but do not forget. Try not to repeat the same mistake by convincing yourself you did the wrong. Allow yourself to approach the situation and express your concerns in a rational and logical manner.
>Allow others to be right. Allow yourself to be wrong. Assume the best not the worst. Learn to let go. Forgive yourself and others. Respect yourself and others. Do your full medical check up on the regular basis.
God bless and keep smiling!
Posted byIrum Khan
Labels: behavior disorder, emotions