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Psychological Reasons For Betrayal In Relations
Betrayal, a form of deception or dismissal of prior presumptions, is the breaking or violation of a presumptive social contract (trust, or confidence) that produces moral and psychological conflict within a relationship amongst individuals, between organizations or between individuals and organizations. Often betrayal is the act of supporting a rival group, or it is a complete break from previously decided upon or presumed norms by one party from the others.
Betrayal is both a "people" problem and a philosopher's problem. Philosophers should be able to clarify the concept of betrayal, compare and contrast it with other moral concepts, and critically assess betrayal situations. At the practical level people should be able to make honest sense of betrayal and also to temper its consequences: to handle it, not be assaulted by it. What we need is a conceptually clear account of betrayal that differentiates between genuine and merely perceived betrayal, and which also provides systematic guidance for the assessment of alleged betrayal in real life.
Respect, loyalty, love and trust are viewed as key requirements for relationships. Relationship typically involve a willingness to self-disclose, and an understanding that such self-disclosure will be held in confidence. Romantic relationships, similarly, tend to involve an explicit understanding of exclusivity. Accordingly, trust and related concepts such as honesty and truthfulness are generally ranked as core elements of both friendships. Acts of betrayal, which violate the trust on which these relationships are based, are generally viewed as moral violations, because they involve issues of fairness and justice and because they have consequences for the welfare and well-being of others.
Why People betrayed? There are several reasons depends on the personality and life history. Some are because something is missing, passion has faded, partners feel lonely,insecurity, communication problem, people find someone who treats them better or who appreciates them more than their current spouse, and so on. Some cases are compromise or arrange marriages or involvement of third party e.g parents,friends or relatives. To please others some people take themselves for granted and takes steps like it. They even don’t think about their future and how many lifes are involved with in. Sometimes they have bad experience in their lives and they started playing around and forget that they are playing with others feelings and emotions and ofcourse damaging themselves in the long run.
There are many reasons why people are unfaithful and have affairs. These affairs are a betrayal to the person that they are officially involved with or married to and are very damaging to the relationship when their partner finds out about the infidelity. But why do people have affairs in the first place when they know that they can cause so much hurt and destruction. Here are some reasons:
* Sex - Majority of the cases are that one person in a relationship has a higher sex drive than the other this can cause the eye to wonder. It may not be any reflection at all on the love that they have for their partner but their sexual appetite is such that they are battling constantly to refrain and resist temptation. In that case person needs to be open and communicate with partner and try to work on it.
* Love - The man or woman falls in love with someone they are close to perhaps through work, friends of the family, perhaps your partners best friend. Love is not something we can control, it 'happens' whether we act on it though is something we can control though that is not to say it's easy and I am not here to pass judgment. Again in this case person should think about their relationship and values.
* Loneliness, Sadness, Boredom, Lack of Attention -
These three things together as they all amount to the same thing. For whatever reason there is something lacking in their existing relationship and despite the fact they may love their partner deeply they are not having their emotional needs (not necessarily sexual) met. Their partner may spend time on their hobby or own friends/family and exclude their partner. Family tensions may be causing a rift. The person feeling emotionally hurt may find themselves inexplicably drawn to the first person who shows them some affection, kindness or attention. They may foolishly believe that they will be rescued completely and live a new life altogether or they may just be welcoming a break from their complicated existence. In this case one should give time and space to partner and try to find out where is the problem. Then face it and fix it.
* Ego- Some people have ego's , non-stable personality and have neither respect for themselves or others and genuinely do think they can sail through life doing whatever they like without ever being caught out. Again it is matter of several life so one should think about is outcomes before doing any unfaithful act. Sometimes because of financial crises people lost their path and attention and looking for passion outside of the home. Again face it and fix it.
* Falling out of Love- This is very sad but true. Sometimes people change with time and some do not change enough, either way falling in and out of love is beyond our control. From what I know myself of people who have been unfaithful, they do not want initially to leave the person they are with. Circumstances get beyond their control. They give in to passion, they give in to feeling attractive and enjoying the attention of someone else and they hope their partner never finds out. Some hope they do! Affairs are often a symptom of other problems within a relationships so be aware!
Keep smiling and God bless!
Posted byIrum Khan
Hey Irum..
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Regards
Lilly Sam
Salam alikum Dear Irum
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Best Regards
Ali Ahmed