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Friendship & Love
My beloved readers ,
Well , I m blessed as I have many friends. Everyone has his/her value and space in my heart and life. As you all know human being is a social animal we need people, friends, relatives, soulmates etc, etc . To share ourselves and to learn about them. To feel them and they feel us. That special kind of feelings which gives us a courage ,support and belongingness. Ah , it is very easy to make friendship but it is very hard to maintain relationship.
Friendship is a term used to denote co-operative and supportive behavior between two or more beings. In this sense, the term connotes a relationship which involves mutual knowledge, esteem, and affection and respect along with a degree of rendering service to friends in times of need or crisis. Friends will welcome each other's company and exhibit loyalty towards each other, often to the point of altruism. A group of friends consists of two or more people who are in a mutually pleasing relationship engendering a sentiment of camaraderie, exclusivity, and mutual trust. There are varying degrees of "closeness" between friends. Hence, some people choose to differentiate and categorize friendships based on this sentiment.
"Friendships are truly some of the most important relationships other than spousal, significant other or child; they have equal gravity. I think they're that important,"."Without question they offer an opportunity for us to know ourselves." As we sometimes can not share our real innerself with our spouse, parents, relatives etc. A good friend is someone that lets us be ourselves and hopefully encourages us to the best part of ourselves. I think they are a mirror of our values, sorrows and fun. Here it want to add one more secret which you likes to know that we all need our coffee friends(ahhaaa) to talk ...; but we have to have fun with them too. The relationship requires empathy and sensitivity. "And yes, communication is key and I have all kinds of keys as I m very talkative person. If I get a chance during my sleep I talk and talk and talk....Friendship itself is sometimes sparked by what we call "vibes," or a strange and electric power of attraction. This is what gives it such a terrific and seemingly magical power to tie people together so closely. All the same, our first impressions can often be mistaken. We've all made mistakes before in the friends we've chosen. Often, we'd like to ignore, forget, or believe that we had anything to do with the selection, but we shouldn't. It's these lessons that remind us that we are human and make mistakes, as-well-as the fact that not everyone we meet will enter into a relationship (whether business, personal, etc.), for the same reasons that we do. It's not right or wrong - good or bad. It's just life. In friendship we should understand ,respect and feel the good or bad points of our friend. Look for people who respect your decisions. Your friends will have different tastes than you do. They should respect your freedom of choice, just as you should respect theirs. Sometimes you may feel that a friend is not making a positive choice. Discuss these issues. Nothing is more important to friendship than communication and honesty. Discuss things with parents or significant others and your instructor(s) as well. There will be times when you feel that a friend of yours is consistently making bad choices, or is not treating you with respect. try to see where your friend is coming from, and try to resolve any differences you might have, don't be afraid to talk ...
It is very true that friendship is the initial step to love. But not in all cases, we have some people in our lives that we consider as very good friends. They are always there for you when ever you need them. Friends are someone with whom you can share all your secrets with. They help you out, talk to you when you need to talk, share your problems, talk to you about their crushes, and hang around. Help you out with your social issues and your personal issue. And love is something not very much different from friendship. Love is a natural feeling, which comes when you start to like or love someone from the depth of your heart. This feeling is very different from all the other feelings. When you see them around you start to get cold sweat, and when they come to talk to you about something, you realize your tongue tight or maybe you’re lost of words. When they touch you, suddenly you can feel butterflies in your stomach, and then it is love. Love and friendship are two very important relations is one’s life. Life can be very beautiful if you both good friends and a lovers. A human being can't live without love and also the friendship, because when you are alone then you need a loving friend who can listen to you and release your tension and can solve your problem, with these two things human being is very alone and can't live in this materialistic world.
A good friends can be a lovers but it is hard that lovers can be good friends. Sometimes , I personally believe friendship is far more important than love. Love hurts ..ahh, mostly. The fear is of losing that person by even on petty things. Friendship can give you sense of loyalty to your company and loving gives you feeling of being part of what ever is going around and you deeply participate and enjoy.We can't compare love with friendship. Each one has it's own greatness and importance. For me a friend is more important than lover. For this reason, love and friendship often get lumped together as a single topic; nonetheless, there are significant differences between them. As understood here, love is an evaluative attitude directed at particular persons as such, an attitude which we might take towards someone whether or not that love is reciprocated and whether or not we have an established relationship with him/her. Friendship, by contrast, is essentially a kind of relationship grounded in a particular kind of special concern each has for the other as the person. One should know what kind a friendship he or she has as friendship theory of Aristotle;-
Friendship... is a kind of virtue, or implies virtue, and it is also most necessary for living. Nobody would choose to live without friends even if he had all the other good things.... There are, however, not a few divergent views about friendship. Some hold that it is a matter of similarity: that our friends are those who are like ourselves... Others take the contrary view....
There are three kinds of friendship....
1- Friendship based on utility.
2- Friendship based on pleasure.
3-Perfect friendship is based on goodness.
“To perceive a friend , therefore, is necessarily in a manner to perceive oneself, and to know a friend is in a manner to know oneself. The excellent person is related to his friend in the same way as he is related to himself, since a friend is another himself.”
God bless and keep smiling!
Posted byIrum Khan